Family drama is inevitable. Am I right? Especially when it comes to your in-laws. Do you hear me loud and clear? But a recent family disagreement I have learned about online has me conflicted.
It has to do with a woman's new husband and how he recently treated his mother-in-law. Wait until you hear how this story unfolded. It's quite interesting, I promise you. So let's find out more. Shall we?
The wife posted on Reddit and said this, "So, I (F31) recently got married to my husband Scott (M36). Before I met him, I was engaged to my former fiancé Martin, but we broke it off because this relationship was sort of pushed by my family — he's a doctor and comes from a wealthy family. When our relationship ended, mom was devastated."
"She did her best to bring us back together. For example, she lied to Martin about me being pregnant to save 'us.' That was years ago — now, we're all on good terms including Martin. Mom has a bit of tension towards Scott — she treats him well but constantly makes passive, nagging comments about him. She compares him to Martin all the time, which bothers both of us but we try to let it slide."
Wow!
"Mom kept telling Scott about the diamond ring, new car, and bank account Martin got for his fiancée and kept sending him photos saying how generous Martin is to his fiancée then compared him to Scott and what he had done for me. I told her to stop doing this and she apologized."
Oh my goodness. Okay, this is getting interesting.
"Last week, we were over at my parents' house for a social gathering, a lot of relatives came and we had dinner. At the dinner table, Mom asked Scott if he saw the text she sent him the other day, he said he was sorry and that he didn't notice. She told him to check it right then and read it out loud so everyone at the table could hear. He took his phone and started reading the text out loud."
Yikes, talk about being under pressure, huh?
"Her text mentioned how Martin got his fiancée a new house and how generous he was, then said that Martin is younger than Scott, yet was able to buy a house. Basically shaming Scott for his inability to buy a house. She wrapped up by saying that Martin maybe wasn't so bad for me after all."
Can you believe that?
"I was shocked and Scott was pissed, obviously. However, he didn't lash out or anything, he looked at the text, smiled, and said 'You know, what gets me about this entire text is how you were a public educator for 30 years, yet you can't differentiate between the passive 'you' and the contraction 'you're.' Good God! The thought of all the children that must've been left behind!'"
Ha, ha! Serves her right!
"Everyone at the table busted into laughter and mom's face went pale. She decided to leave the table, then she and my sister started yelling at me, saying Scott was being awfully rude and I need to get him to apologize immediately for embarrassing mom at the table."
The wife refused to tell her husband to apologize, then pointed out how the mom was being judgmental toward him, she defended herself saying she was just letting him know and he had no confidence and took it personally. Holy moly!
The wife posted on Reddit asking if she was the asshole in this situation. And I have to say the comments were mixed. Many people came to her defense saying that it was the mom who was in the wrong. Other people suggested that the couple stop coming over, or institute a "no-Martin" rule.
However, I was surprised to see that some people called the wife out for not standing up for her husband enough and telling her mom to pipe down. Some suggested that she should have a talk with her mom about comparing her current husband to her ex and that in no circumstances this is right.
If you were in the wife's shoes what would you have done? First of all, I wouldn't let this issue get to where it has gotten. I would have told my mother to stop comparing my actual husband to my ex and leave my husband out of it. End of story.
In my opinion, this situation could have been avoided if the daughter had a serious talk with the mom and not just swept the issue under the carpet. Do you agree with that?
