There are many controversial subjects out there, and I'm about to ask you to add your opinion to another debate.
Recently I stumbled upon a Reddit thread that asked people, "What is your opinion on a 30-year-old dating a 19-year-old?" And needless to say, folks had a lot to say about it. Let's look at some of their answers. I'm really curious about this as well.
Apparently, there were at least 20,000 replies in the span of 24 hours. Whoa! That's a lot. Am I right? Many people felt the need to comment on it, alright. So let's check it out.
"Personally, I think it’s weird. A 19-year-old is basically fresh outta high school, barely an adult mentally. A 30-year-old is a full-grown adult who is way older, mentally and physically."
I have to say I tend to agree with that.
"As a 29-year-old I don’t date someone unless they are 24 to 25+. It’s more so the maturity gap and the phase in which most gals are in between 22 to 24 — right outta college, not really settled down yet, still partying like they’re in college, and don’t know what they want. I know it's not the same for everyone, but that’s the main reason."
"I thought it was okay when I was in my 20s, but now that I'm in my 30s, it's a big no-no."
I think that's true. When you're younger, you might not have thought it was a big deal, but as you get older, you get it.
"The younger person should be wary of the kind of person who is in their 30s and pursuing someone who is still in their teens. Why do they not want someone who is closer to their own age? Is there something they do that someone who is a bit older would recognize as being a red flag?"
"I (18M) met her (30F) when I was moving into the apartment she was moving out of... We were together for about a year and were talking about marriage when my parents asked me to come home alone one weekend. Stepping away helped me to see all of the possibilities. A fiery breakup ensued... She was done having her adventures. I needed to have my own."
"Met my ex-husband when I was barely 21, and he was 29. Married for 24 years, and most of them were miserable for me. I guess the simple reason is that I grew up and changed, and he was already grown and stayed the same. We've since both moved on to much more compatible partners, but he still says, 'I never should have married someone so young!'"
Wow!
I absolutely agree with that. I don't know if I would have something in common with somebody that young. What do you even talk about? Have you thought of that? I think that would be a deal breaker for me.
Do you tend to agree with what everyone has said here? I think both people need to really think about it. It may seem like a good idea, at the time, but you need to think about the long term. Unless you just want to have some fun. However, you wouldn't want the relationship to be one-sided in that regard. So it's a tricky situation, for sure.
