Stills from TikTok video about tipping drama
TikTok | @buelistic

TikToker Says Restaurant Denied Service Because Of 'Non-Tipper' In Group

To tip or not to tip? That is the question, and honestly, if you live someplace where tipping culture is a thing, the answer is usually "to tip."

Of course, there's a bigger debate here: why are employers allowed to pay less than minimum wage to certain positions, and why is the general public expected to make up for this deficit?

These questions have come into sharp focus after a TikToker's video about tipping drama went viral.

Tipping is the norm in the United States.

A tip jar
Unsplash | Sam Dan Truong

Workers who rely on tips really rely on tips. Many of them say that the bulk of their earnings, or more than half, comes from the tips they receive on the job.

A TikToker is calling out tipping culture.

TikToker discusses tipping
TikTok | @africanbarb

TikToker @africanbarb put out a video where she puts it bluntly: "Nobody is obligated to tip nobody."

This apparently happened after she got bad service at a restaurant and decided not to tip her server.

She gave more details in the comments.

TikToker defending her decision not to tip
TikTok | @africanbarb

She points out that some, but not all, services ask for tips and asks why some do and some don't. At the end of the day, she's just defending her decision not to give her server a couple of dollars.

Commenters weren't having it.

Comments on TikTok video about tipping
TikTok | @africanbarb

While some were sympathetic to her position and others questioned tipping culture in general, plenty of commenters chimed in to patiently explain why it's good to leave tips. It's possible to think tipping culture is dumb, but also understand why servers need tips.

Another TikToker has a take.

TikToker discusses tipping
TikTok | @buelistic

Bueli, who uses the handle @buelistic, stitched @africanbarb's video together with some comments of her own. In her video, Bueli defends @africanbarb.

"I definitely acknowledge that [tipping] is not a requirement," she said. "And if I do get just my price [as a tattoo artist], then I should be fine with that as well."

Should you tip? Depends on who you're tipping.

Comments on a TikTok video about tipping
TikTok | @buelistic

This commenter points out that Bueli works as a tattoo artist, which is a job that generally pays more than a server would make at a restaurant. In other words, the expectation of tips generally correlates with how little a person makes.

Should you tip solely based on service?

Comments on a TikTok video about tipping
TikTok | @buelistic

While there are rules of thumb for how much you should tip, most people are likely willing to give a little more (or, conversely, a little less) depending on how they're treated during their experience.

This is the sad reality.

Comments on a TikTok video about tipping
TikTok | @buelistic

In an ideal world, every server would make a living wage and no one would need to tip them, ever. But this isn't an ideal world, and unless there's a major societal shift, tipping culture is here to stay.

Do you agree?

Should you always tip? Should you never tip? Does the fairest answer lie somewhere in between? Be sure to check out Bueli's video above and then let us know what you think of all this tipping culture drama in the comments.