One woman took to Reddit to share her story of how the new server she hired completely changed the culture in her restaurant. But it wasn't the server's fault; it was the other employees who began harassing her.
User CalamityClambake posted to the TwoXChromosomes Subreddit, stating that things "got weird" after she hired an attractive server to work at the restaurant she owns with her husband.
"We have low turnover so we don't hire new people that often. But last week I hired a new waitress because we need the coverage. She's a very pretty woman in her mid-20s. She brought some experience and some excellent recommendations and so far she's been a stellar employee."
"I've done my best to cultivate a workplace that is fair and kind and ethical. But some of these dudes have turned into [explative] jackasses. It's even worse because I've known some of them for years and they've never behaved this way in front of me before."
"This is a guy in his 40s who has worked for me for years. He worked with my husband before we owned our own place. I'm friends with his wife. And yet he decided that what he needed to do was ask this new waitress out... repeatedly."
"...He's fired in the middle of the dinner rush and everyone else had to pick up his slack. Now he's blowing up my husband's phone trying to get un-fired. Fat chance, buddy. My husband doesn't suck."
"And everyone is mad, or sad, or freaked out. I'm sitting here drinking a beer because my husband is gonna walk in soon and we're gonna have to talk about it. And I married a good man, but I know I'm gonna have to explain that the firings are gonna continue until the harassment stops."
"Can I just say how proud I am of you for doing the right thing and protecting this young woman despite her being newest on the team?" one commenter posted. "I’ve seen some crappy employers in my day who would fire despite her having done nothing wrong."
One user said, "You are a good manager/ boss. When I was cornered all the time and followed into the walk in freezer my manager told me to relax, he just really likes me ( while she knew I was in a relationship AND told her that I am HARASSED)."
And it's especially worse in the restaurant industry. Up to 90% of female restaurant workers experience some kind of workplace sexual harassment as of a 2017 report published by Harvard Business Review. In addition, up to 70% of men experience the same.
Because the restaurant industry has such a high turnover rate, many workers may simply leave their position rather than report harassment of any kind. There's also the problem that the culture in restaurants tends to ignore and in some cases, encourages harassment.
It's not the server's fault that others find her attractive, and it definitely isn't her fault that they feel the need to harass her and make her feel uncomfortable. As long as owners and managers continue to punish people for perpetuating workplace sexual harassment, the culture surrounding it will hopefully begin to change.
