People Reveal What Happened To The Person Who Took Their Virginity

"He passed away at 19 after suffering a seizure in his sleep. We'd broken up about 6 months before. Its been 10 years, but every once in a while I still wonder who he'd be today." — k_isom

Losing someone so young and in such a sudden, shocking manner can blindside anyone. If you have ever experienced something like this, then it can be a struggle to process how to mourn and move on because you feel that your time with that person has been robbed away. However, it is so important just to focus upon the good times that you have had with the person you've lost, as dwelling can only negatively impact you.

"In jail for child abuse and recording it." — GoneThroughHell

They wrote that the person who had abused them as a child was their parent. They said that they only wish they had gotten him caught earlier.

"She's now my step-sister..." — ThisIsBuzzard

They posted an edit to give some context. The pair had been in a relationship and then broke up 6 months after they had gone to uni. After the break up, their parents had started dating and have since moved in together. Thankfully, they explained that the pair are very civil when both are staying over at their parent's house. Must be a strange atmosphere though.

"She joined the circus. In an administrative capacity, but it's less fun to say that way." — rokr1292

They explained that she had specifically worked for Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey Circus, before it shut down. Imagine being with a circus performer, just constantly pulling handkerchiefs out of places you don't want them to be pulling handkerchiefs

"Probably dead. I lost my virginity to a heroin addict for $40. I don't even know her name." — reddragon2073

They went on to write that afterward they got themselves checked for STDs as they became quite panicked. They also wrote that during their late teens they had been addicted to a lot of drugs and had lived quite a dangerous life; however, they have now been clean for a year. Anyone can turn their life around, you can always get help if you need.

"It's very sad really, he's married to me." — ilovetotransfuse

There's nothing wrong with staying with the person your first time is with. They also revealed that they met when they were eight, and started dating when they were 12. They have now been married for six years, and hopefully, it'll last for many years longer!

"I was 12, and she was 13. She got pregnant. I heard a 26yr old took responsibility. Apparently she was having sex with anyone willing because she wanted a baby. I never saw her again. I was never really sure it wasn't mine. No idea what happened. I'm in my 40s. I think about her sometimes. I can't imagine her life went well." — User1539

This is a really strange situation. They went on to explain that they didn't know that the person they were sleeping with was so intent on having a baby. Apparently, she was having sex with around 6 other people at the time. This is the sort of thing that could easily mess up the lives of anyone involved, and it's unsettling to imagine how someone could feel like this at such a young age.

"I saw her at a parade a while back. She had a couple of kids and looked rougher than I remembered. Meth'll do that." — TheDudeMaintains

Seeing those in our lives fall into drug addiction can be difficult. This person went on to explain that she had sadly adopted the habit early in life.

"Cheated on me, got fat, had a kid, cheated on that guy, had another kid, cheated on that guy, and now lives in her mom's basement." — MrHoopersDead

I guess it goes to show that being a bad person doesn't pay off in the long run! Hopefully, this person didn't develop any trust issues as a result of this, not everyone is bad after all.

"He is now an OB/GYN.... sometimes it makes me laugh that he sees dozens of vaginas a day, but mine was the first." — jul1992

It's good to know that you have clearly had an influence over someone else's life, and helped inform their life choices. Well done!

"She killed herself 13 years ago. She was a great person." — p4lm3r

A lot of people commented on this particular story to share their own experiences. Finding out that someone who played such a specific part of your life has taken their own life can be a quietly devastating thing. This is of course especially true, however in a completely different way, for those who were still with that person at the time of their death.

"Weirdly enough I just got back in contact with him maybe 7 months ago to apologize for how things went down when he took my virginity (dad walked in, massive mess.) He's been doing amazing in life, and we've now been together for about 6 months" — DickPuker

"Man, haven't seen her since she moved out and divorced me 5 years ago. I honestly have no idea what she's up to, but I actually hope she's found help for her mental illnesses and is generally happy. But she can stay wherever she is, I don't need to see her again." — xv9d

Sometimes, people who stay with their first partner can rush into things without really knowing enough about that person, or themselves. It can be important for some people to spend time figuring out who they are on their own. It's good that this person hopes that their ex is happy though, it's unpleasant to wish someone unhappiness.

"We took each other’s virginity about 20 years ago. She’s a psychologist now, has her own practice, lives in SC. Still looks amazing, still does gymnastics. Married, Has two kids. We still talk once a year or so and are still friends after all these years." — B_Addie

It is great when people can still remain friends with those whom they have been intimate with. There is no reason why it should be awkward!

"Happily married and she's running a fairly successful sweets catering service. Contacted me once when she had a big fight with her husband. I'm not a doorknob so I knew something was up. She was trying to affirm her femininity by pulling compliments out of me. I was over her by this point (years passed) but I offered her to be a friend and chat from time to time.

"Got ghosted two days later, and a common friend was asked to tell me not to contact her anymore. I said 'That's a pretty sh*tty attitude' and later went out for a beer with that friend." — Arxian

It sounds like you're better with this sort of person not in their life. Calls to your ex are very rarely a good idea, and that is especially true in this case.

"He is pretending to be all zen living shoeless in the countryside. He was an abusive AH that broke my car’s windshield once when he was angry (I was inside the car) and left bruises all over my arms while he violently shook me against a wall another time, among some of my finest memories of this fellow.

"The day after we went to a bar and a girl teased me about my bruises looking like fingerprints. I felt dead inside at that moment. It took a while but eventually I learned better and broke up. He also cheated at me a few times. It was an enlightening experience that led me to choose a great partner to spend my life with, but he was a real piece of work." — sheep_in_a_box

"She became an herbalist out West and died a few years ago. My third GF died also and my first wife. I have a kind-of large pile of corpses of people I've loved for somebody who's 63 years old and doesn't murder people." — Oknight

That sounds like just the sort of thing that a murderer would say to cover their tracks! Conventional crime show music plays.

"Single mom, 30 years old, with two kids. She seems like she’s a terrific mom and tries the best she can with limited resources. Thanks for the memories, Olivia, and good luck." — thedominoeffect_

"He died in a car accident about 15 years ago. I found out when I was cyber stalking people from my past and found his obituary. It was quite sad finding that out. Just wasn't the expected outcome of that particular internet search." - floridaparalegal

"She's an attorney. She gave me some advice when I wanted to adopt a few years ago. Sweet girl, and still gorgeous 20-something years later." - dookie1481

"I haven't seen her in almost 20 years, but apparently everyone still thinks she's a bitch." -fizzled112

"Last I heard he was in a jail for sexual assault of a minor." -ty_james795

As disheartening as this is to read, we can at least find some comfort in knowing this monster got caught and was placed behind bars.

"He's married but he's only been faithful to her for two years of their six year marriage. So." -lynrenle

The poster later elaborated on this and explained that the man's wife has only ever been with him, thus her reluctance to leave him. And apparently he resents her for him "having to settle."

"Dead. F*ck cancer. We did have an almost 25 year run though." -damageddude

The poster later added that he lost his wife two and a half years ago and that both he and his children are starting to do better now.

"She is my roommate and she has an amazing boyfriend. We are best friends" -blooodghoul

While it's nice they can remain friends, I can't be the only one who finds it just a little awkward to live with the person you lost the ol' V-card to, particularly while they're dating someone else.

"She is about 300lbs, really unhealthy, working part time at a Tim Hortons, has had no friendships or relationships in at least three decades, and is constantly begging for sh*t on Facebook groups." -MrDatasDoingus

"I have no clue, but I hope he was able to move on as I have. We both spent years mourning the loss of the relationship. I'm good now and I hope he is too." -tanya6k

"I don't even think I'd recognize her if I saw her. I don't remember her name either. Does that make me a bad person?" -scarbux

There are inevitably some people who lose their virginity in ...well, less personal ways. As long as it was safe and consensual, who are we to judge?

"She married some military dude, and had a hard life. Last I found her on Facebook she was promoting a GoFundMe so she could get new teeth. Had recently lost everything in a house fire. Has a couple of kids." — sardineclub

This person also specified that she hadn't lost her teeth in the fire, as a lot of people were considerably confused about how she had managed to loose her teeth in a house fire.

"Mine died in a car crash. It sucked. We were together at the time but had argued on the phone the night before. It was the only time I ever hung up without telling him I loved him and it was my last chance ever. It still haunts me." — Tattooedunicorn

This person posted in an update that they are doing much better now, and acknowledged that sometimes life has both highs and lows.