When someone in the family is having a baby, everyone wants to get involved. With a new baby comes major excitement from family members who want to decorate, plan a baby shower, and spoil the soon-to-be newborn.
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Reddit Post Sparks Debate About Diaper Cakes At Baby Showers
Baby showers are something that many people have when expecting.
Traditionally, there are tons of "universal" things that are included at baby showers, such as games and decorations. One of these traditions is a "diaper cake."
However, not everyone loves the idea behind a diaper cake.
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Recently, one Reddit user opened up about her distaste for "diaper cakes" on the "Am I The Asshole?" thread on Reddit.
The Reddit user said that her SIL mentioned wanting to make a diaper cake for the shower.
"I thought this would be a cake shaped like a diaper but after chatting with her I learned that it is actually a number of disposable diapers, rolled up and tied together to vaguely resemble a tiered cake. I guess it is supposed to be used as a baby shower decoration," she said.
However, she didn't want the diaper cake at all.
"I told her that I appreciate the sentiment and I love that she already wants to do something for a baby shower that is months away,"
She continued:
"But 1) My husband and I are undecided on the disposable vs cloth question, and 2) If I'm going to have disposable diapers I would rather keep them in the box, where they'll be easier to store and move,"
However, her SIL was mad.
"My SIL got angry, yelled at me that diaper cakes are traditional (are they? I've never been to a baby shower), called me ungrateful, and said that I'll be sorry when I have a baby and no baby stuff because I rejected all my shower gifts."
"Obviously that last part was just her going over the top because she was mad, but what about the rest of it," she asked.
Needless to say, this is one heck of a situation for anyone to handle, and it can even be argued that people can agree with both points being made!
The soon-to-be mom asked if she's "wrong" for wanting diapers, but not a diaper cake.
People on Reddit were a bit torn down the middle about whether or not the Reddit user was an "asshole" for her stance on diaper cakes.
One person said yes, she's wrong, because diaper cakes are expensive.
"I mean, yeah kinda. She offered you a VERY EXPENSIVE decoration/present. No the structure doesn’t ruin the diapers. And regardless if you cloth diaper, you will always have a situation where you need a disposable," one person said.
Others said, however, that she's not wrong because she made her opinion clear.
"You brought up valid criticisms of the idea, and I've literally never heard of a 'diaper cake'. You haven't decided on cloth [versus] disposable, and it's perfectly reasonable to want to have disposable diapers in boxes if you decide to go on that route."
"Babies need a lot of stuff and take up a lot of space, why would you want to fumble around with a cake-shaped tower of diapers when you're exhausted and trying to change the baby."
"And if you decide to use cloth diapers, now you're stuck with a cake-shaped tower of diapers that wouldn't even get used, and instead take up space," they said.
Some were on both sides.
"She definitely overreacted, and the yelling was rude and unnecessary.
But I find it extremely rude to be so ungrateful when someone loves you and your child enough to go through the effort to buy materials and make a handcrafted gift for you. I'd honestly be very put off by someone complaining that their gift isn't good enough," they said.
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