Finding out that your partner has cheated on you is a devastating and unfathomable blow. Many people who find out are absolutely heartbroken and confused as to how and why someone could do that to them.
And, finding out is oftentimes the worst part—especially, if you are the one who finds out firsthand by walking in and seeing them in the act.
While finding out you're being cheated on totally blows, the way you find out can be a make-or-break situation about how you feel. Sometimes, we find out through other people. Other people can catch them in the act or see them with someone else and let you know.
When we have a gut feeling, we sometimes go snooping around in drawers, coat pockets, and even through their phones sometimes. And, we see them texting or calling someone they shouldn't be—saying things they shouldn't be.
There is nothing worse than finding out that your partner is cheating on you than by walking in on them in the act. Seeing it right then and there can be absolutely devastating and can truly ruin you.
Some people jump straight to anger—and lose it. I mean, if you walked in on your spouse doing it with someone else, I'm sure you would want to scream and throw things at them immediately.
Instead of raging out and breaking everything in sight, there are apparently some other ways to handle the whole "I just walked in on my spouse inside of someone else and now I need to take care of this situation immediately."
Reddit user Harrtard walked in on his wife sleeping with someone else and decided, instead of breaking them up and freaking out, he would write a note to the guy who was sleeping with his wife and leave it for him in his car.
"Hey, just wanted to let you know that you’re sleeping with someone who’s married and we’re not in an open relationship so you shouldn't really be doing the dirty with her," he started the note.
"I appreciate things can get lonely so don’t mind you popping over for a brew temporarily whilst I’m out but in the future could you give me a heads up so I can move my car for you please," he said.
While the husband seemed ticked off, many thought the whole "come over for a brew" thing was a tad confusing and also opened this to happen again...and again. However, others seemed to disagree with this entirely.
"I disagree. I think they got the message across in a perfect rendition of English British passive aggression and that person will stop.
Sounds like "I'm disappointed in you" which is far worse than "I am angry with you."
I obviously know nothing about the situation but I can't imagine it will be happening again with the cheater as a married person," one person commented.
"I think the cheers is a bit passive-aggressive. I think 'many thanks' would set the tone, you want them to know you mean business but are also grateful for their future consideration," another person commented on the post.
What would you have written?
