Husband Makes Thanksgiving Ham For Mother When Wife Refuses

OP writes that his mother would always make ham alongside turkey for Thanksgiving because she didn't like turkey. But as he got older, she stopped hosting Thanksgiving, and would just go to a friend's house.

His wife is very rigid and likes to adhere to certain traditions. Ham, as she sees it, is for Christmas and not Thanksgiving. When OP had the opportunity to invite his mother for the holidays, she said she would only go if she could have ham. She even offered to make one and bring it over. But, OP's wife wouldn't let her bring a ham, nor would she make one herself.

Eventually, OP decided to make a ham himself, because he wanted to have his mother over. The wife was furious because she didn't want him in the kitchen, and even got their daughter in on it, joking about how they may sabotage the ham. OP ended his story by asking if it was so wrong of him to try and cook a ham for his mom.

Many people saw fault in the wife, who they saw as being mean and cruel. Users also took issue with the fact that she joked about tampering with food.

Some people took issue with the fact that OP's mom wouldn't go unless there was ham, though she did offer to bring one herself.

Some people like turkey, and others like ham (or both). Some have certain dietary restrictions or sensory issues with food. It's not the end of the world to have an extra dish to accommodate a guest's needs or preferences.