Redditor Slammed For Gifting Nephew Cheaper Gifts Than His Cousins Because His Parents Are Poor

OP makes the money in her family and describes her husband's family as working class. They are immigrants who have spent much of their life working hard to make ends meet. She then discusses how she sets a certain budget for each child in the family for Christmas and will spend more or less on them depending on different circumstances.

OP's nephew and his parents recently immigrated and are undocumented. The mother doesn't work, and the father has to work extra hours to barely make it by. Because she knew they couldn't afford to buy gifts in return, OP decided to only buy the nephew a small gift. Her husband was upset, saying that he deserved more and that she didn't understand what it was like to grow up in that kind of situation.

OP spent a little bit more on gifts for the nephew, but the husband is still mad. She seems to not understand why he is upset.

Users felt that OP might look down on her husband's family, and that is one of the reasons why she doesn't understand how cruel she's being.

If you have the means and know a relative is struggling, wouldn't you want to help them out?

Many users said the phrase, "you don't give to receive." Gift-giving should be about making someone else feel good, not expecting to get something of the same value in return.